Strengths come up as priority development. These involve having the resources to cope well with setbacks in life. The fool is demanding and incapable. The lightning struck tower follows when all is lost and not recovered. A breakdown. This cannot happen. The consequences are major for life progression when things go wrong, when the querent causes things to go wrong. It is a tragedy when opportunities in life are lost, instead of a good life, this is replaced by a very difficult life, struggle, weakness, illhealth, adversity. The fool does not correct the difficulties with speed. The tower has fallen, and rebuilding requires great strength and determination, sometimes it can take generations to recover.
Grief, anxiety, maybe anger with oneself and others occurs. The Fool does not see problems arising in the future, like driving, we must anticipate what could occur in the future. The Fool fantasises and is not in the real world but the disasters are real. The Fool is a wake up call.
Support is needed in times of emotional distress, maybe through life. Women, especially in their role as wife and mother, need huge inner resources and abilities to care for a man, the home and to rear his children to be strong individuals, so he can be proud of his wife and children. Some women are unable to achieve this due to an overly sensitive disposition. This is not wrong, being sensitive and delicate is a beautiful way to be. It is gentle, and many people can enjoy and admire this way of being. It might not be the strong support that some men require, a woman to always be undramatic and solidly capable at all times. The answer is to be unshakable, positive at all times, a tower of strength who can support a man who can be selfish and demanding. Many women are unable to deal with a man who has such needs. The tarot asks what are your needs now? Whether this man can provide for your needs? What type of man can provide for your needs in life? Most men are interested in whether a woman can cope with what they need in life. The thing to avoid is a mismatch. An unequal relationship in terms of independence, emotional resilience and stability. Is it a relationship that looks good but results in catastrophe - divorce and a broken home for children. Wisdom is required, the big picture, the hard truth without fantasy. Wanting the best for yourself and your partner and knowing how to give and get it.
How much are you prepared to sacrifice? The hanged man is the unknown, during which time you must strengthen yourself so you can deal with everything required of you. This is what a man wants and needs, and finds admirable. A woman who he can depend on, who can deal with his moods and selfishness, who is his rock and his supporter at all times, who will never criticise him, who is never personally needy. Wisdom is in not needing anything, especially emotional support. Ambition is questioned. To understand ambition in an ambitious man is to understand what is required of you, reliability, steadfastness, unshakability, solid support and constant awareness of his needs. It might not be the best match. Is the contribution enough for each person? His devotion to you and your devotion to him. Is it enough for you both?
